it's about attention.

everyone talks about the transaction because it’s the easiest part to see.
a number leaves one account and appears in another. simple.
but that doesn’t explain why someone checks your page before they’ve even gotten out of bed. why they remember tiny things you said weeks ago. why being noticed for thirty seconds can feel more valuable than something they spent hours earning.
that’s the part of findom people misunderstand.
money is measurable. attention isn’t.
and gooning makes that distinction even stranger.
because eventually, you’re not obsessing over a person only because you find them attractive. you’re obsessing over the idea you’ve constructed around them.
every post adds to it.
every picture reinforces it.
every interaction makes the fantasy a little more important.
eventually, she barely has to do anything.
you’ve trained your own attention to return to her.
that’s why I think the most interesting kind of power isn’t making someone spend.
it’s becoming the person they think about before they even decide what to do with their money.
the transaction is just the receipt.

the obsession happened first.