Communication.

Dynamics.

The communication between one and another can be complicated. The push and pull between love & lust can bring miscommunication, anger and frustration that feeds on one another. This is why there needs to be such a heavy focus on healthy communication, this is why i have such a heavy focus on healthy communication.
Without communication from both people, all sides, every party involved, there will be no dynamic.

Let me elaborate with an example. Party A and B, are an ENM bisexual couple. A is interested in the BDSM & kink lifestyle, B is not. A talks to B about their interests, B is very happy to listen and hear about As interests and wants them to explore healthily so B asks A what they want to do with this interest. A expresses the desire to explore with another partner, B says amazing! Id love to watch you but I do not want to be involved. A says that sounds really sexy, thank you for sharing, I love you. They make out and fuck.
A goes out on their own, meets party C. A and C are flirting. Getting along very well. Before things get too heated, A expresses their limits. 'C, I want to let you know Im not looking for anything serious, my partner and I are ethically non monogamous, and exploring some things sexually, Id love to tell you more. '

This, in my opinion, is an example of good communication involving partners, multiple parties and mild kink.

The miscommunication certain emotions can bring into communication is more complicated, especially when kink is involved. Clear, precise communication is one of my rules, despite emotions.
Expressing boundaries and limits is one place where emotions can tend to get worked up, as trauma tends to play a big part of kink. Your limits are what keeps you safe, it's natural to have that defense if you know your limits are what keep you safe.
For example, I'm strict about my limits as well, but strict in the meaning of if someone crosses them, I simply block and move on, keeping my peace.
Mental fortitude and safety is important, but knowing how to keep it is just as.

I believe knowing how to communicate healthily is simply a growing process. There is no handbook, there is no video to watch. It's something you learn over time as you talk to more people, learn more things, and mature through life. Kink can absolutely be a fantastic educational tool for communication, as it is one of the core aspects if you're doing it safely. However, learning healthy communication in your day to day vanilla bean life is just as important :)