Take A Chance
Being new may be scary, intimidating, and possibly crippling. Whether you've gained a bit of experience or you're a pro at your craft, you tend to forget what it was like.
If you're a domme, you know the excitement of receiving your first Tribute/Send, giving your first task, enjoying your first wallet drain, and dominating your first submissive.
For a submissive, you get butterflies when you approach with tribute, release of pleasure when sending, and a need to submit and serve.
But do you remember that everyone starts somewhere? Everyone has that beginning period where they second guess themselves, have some shame at enjoy the kink, but can't let go of the curiosity that led them to start in the first place.
As a newer domme, but novice SW, I get it. It can be scary to find your niche, navigate and understand what you like, figuring out what your boundaries are, and what you know will get you to the perfect trifecta of being on the edge, reaching ecstasy, and reaching the point of release.
For most of us, both dommes & subs alike, sex is either boring, or it doesn't give you the thrill and fulfillment that you need to satisfy that itch. So finding this space and world of kink that allows us the opportunity to dive deep into this life without the judgement of friends/family, or the disappointment of a lazy roll in the sack, is exactly what we needed. But you had to start somewhere, right?
Right now, in this world of kink, findom, and this app/site has a domme out there taking a chance. Or asub thinking of dipping their toe in the water that is financial domination. Maybe she/he/they are second guessing, feeling ashamed, trying to figure out and understand where to start, how this works, and if this will bring the thrill they are searching for.
Think of when you were in their shoes, debt contracts, chastity, or sessions. And, imagine how you felt when someone took a chance on you. Whether it was an experience you found exhilarating or terrifying, if you're reading this, you didn't give up, it wasn't enough, and you did it again. Remember that feeling!
If you're a domme and get approached by a newbie who has questions and wants to learn, TAKE A CHANCE! Allow them grace and be gentle, or not 😈, OR give them some tips, send them a few links, or send them to a domme that can fulfill their kink.
If you're a sub, TAKE A CHANCE! A newer domme may just need a little tribute to be encouraged to stick it out, some words of encouragement, a small task to give, debt contract, or content to be bought.
Dommes & subs alike, should share their experiences and offer advice, a send, a task, or just a simple conversation. Everyone should be respectful of each others time, regardless of which role you embody. Pay dommes for their time, and be respectful of subs sharing. Don't take advantage of others and don't let others take advantage of you!
If you're up for it, I challenge you to Take A Chance on a newbie, and share your experience on how it went.