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Investing in a Domme is an Investment in Yourself.

Aug 20, 2026 · 2 min read

Some oft-repeated financial advice? Pay yourself first. I agree wholeheartedly.

Part of proper submission is investing in yourself (pay yourself first), and the best way to do that is to invest in your Dominant (pay herself first).

Confused? Of course you are. This is even more reason to make sure you're paying yourself first. When paying yourself, you send money to your Dominant because you can't be trusted with it. But you should always pay yourself (herself) first.

When you send to your Dominant, you're learning responsibility. Pay yourself first.
When you send to your Dominant, you're learning loyalty. Pay yourself first.
When you send to your Dominant, you're learning discipline. Pay yourself first.
When you send to your Dominant, you're learning generosity. Pay yourself first.

Your Dominant is an extension of yourself; the better, more profound, wiser, and more intelligent part of you. Your Dominant is your guide. Pay herself first.
Your Dominant is the center of your happiness, the center of your world. The steady hand that you orbit around in chaos. Pay herself first.
Your Dominant, even when she may feel chaotic or manipulative, is always there for a purpose you know and value and find purpose in. Pay herself first.

When you invest in her, you invest in you. Pay herself first.
When you give your money to her capable hands to hold, you prevent yourself from irresponsible spending and poor financial decisions. Pay herself first.
When you ensure her financial happiness is your priority, you ensure her attention is your priority, and you ensure you have a reason for pushing through the insanity in the world. Pay herself first.
When your Dominant smiles, you smile. Pay herself first.

Pay herself first. Invest your money properly by ensuring you invest in yourself, by paying herself first. Straight to her account, as soon as your paycheck hits, to ensure you maintain discipline, accountability, loyalty, responsibility, and consistency. All the things that make you a man worthy of her time and attention.

Take the best and most repeated financial advice out there: pay herself first.

Always pay herself first.

Lindy Myles
@lindymyles

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