Why I Do Findom

I think growing up as a super independent woman who became self sufficient has made me extremely lonely and isolated as an individual. Where I think led me to crave this kind of interaction.

I grew up learning how not to rely on anyone because it’s always going to be you against the world

It’s not to say I don’t have friends. I have great friends, but we all have our own lives and schedules. I check in but other than that I don’t reach out.

I started early on working from 12 years old as a babysitter for cash, to being a cashier, a supervisor, a cosmetician, and now where I am in the aviation field. I’ve worked hard and made my way through life funding myself and my “non-essential” items so my parents wouldn’t have to carry the burden after learning we struggled and were still struggling. Since, I’ve never asked them to buy me anything until later in life when things became easier and they started to offer since they could now.

So I’ve always tried my best to take care of myself and my siblings, even my friends sometimes, whenever money was an issue I would always offer no questions. No judgement, just security that I was able to offer. I never expected it back. It was never about an I owe you. Just knowing I could take care of it.

Wherever I could extend my help I always would. Being an ear to talk to, offering what they needed whether that was advice, a solution or a place to just vent. I’ve always enjoyed helping people out.

But financially, giving without a second thought, for the love of the reaction, the meaning, taking care of someone else. I see why people genuinely enjoy it.

Essentially doing that often early on in my working life gave me a desire to feel how it felt like to demand and take, quite the opposite of what I was doing. With a soft nature still, I still enjoy being someone for people to talk to. But having a dynamic with a sub who enjoys to give, without getting much in return, only what I grant, and telling him what I want to see him do. It really hits my dominant nature wanting to control everything I can.

So having someone I can work with on a dynamic to achieve what we both want, my need and want to control and take financially, after giving so much in my life, and them, having discussed what they want as well.

It’s not a sob story but simply a writing to share the thoughts and motives behind my attraction towards findom and how I came about to want to do it. And why I’m choosing now in my life to do it.

I really do crave the attention as well that comes along with it.

Thank you for reading💕 hopefully some would like to start a dynamic with me through this invitation into my thoughts.