had to turn a sub down today, let’s talk about it

had to turn down a sub today, let’s talk about it ⬇️

this sub was someone who has sent to me in the past, we have rapport and history. I know about their life, job, family etc. they approached me about engaging again. after some thought I proposed a debt contract for a few reasons.

first, this would hold them accountable to their personal goals which they have flaked on in the past.
second, I know them well enough to understand they are looking for a longer term consistent dynamic. that comes with boundaries and expectations for both of us.
lastly, I know they enjoy blackmail (as do I) so it would be mutually entertaining to include that. findom is ment to be fun and kinky too!

after some discussion they elaborated that they aren’t in a good place to enter this dynamic right now. they just got a new job, are in training, and aren’t into a good financial place. could I push the boundaries and use my power to force the situation - sure. but would that be the best outcome for both parties - no. they would be entering something they wouldn’t have the spoons to fulfill and as a good dom it’s my job to use my decrement to make that call.

they know what they have to do to work on their situation, get in a more stable place, and be ready to serve.

moral of the story is - I would rather turn a sub down who isn’t ready, than force them to enter a dynamic I know isn’t positive right-now.